It is easy to get caught up with getting our homemaking tasks checked off and forget that one of our most important tasks as homemakers is to set the tone of our homes. Is it chaos because we are rushing through our tasks and getting frustrated easily, allowing our emotions to dictate the tone OR are we choosing to have a joyful heart in our tasks as homemakers and bring the glory back to God. In todays post I am going to share with you 2 ways a homemaker sets the tone in her home.
I hope this post leaves you inspired to set a lovely tone in your home xo
A Wise Woman Builds Her Home
If you are a christian homemaker then you are likely very familiar with the verse I am about to share. But you may be wondering how to practically apply it in your everyday. The bible says:
“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one pulls it down with her own hands.”
~ Proverbs 14:1
So how does a homemaker build her home? One way is by setting the tone in her home. Here are 2 ways I actively try to set the tone in my home:
- Prayer + Reading The Bible Everyday
2 Ways A Homemaker Sets The Tone In Her Home
1. Prayer + Reading the Bible Everyday
Before all else as homemakers we must come before God daily to remind us who we are ultimately serving with our homemaking. Sometimes it will look like being alone with candles, something warm to sip on, hymns playing in the background, and being able to dive deep into the word. Other times (more often in this season of littles) it is all those things except reading a Psalm or Proverb with little ones crawling all around. Both are good!
The days that are the most chaotic in our home are the days I am not praying or reading His word. They become the days where I am self focused vs. having a servant heart.
Now that does not mean that when I start my day with prayer and reading the bible my days are easy, to be quite honest being a full time homemaker is hard there is just not easy way about it if you are to do it well, but it is God who gives us what we need to get through the days. This is why it is important to remember that hard does not equal bad. For example, childbirth is hard, in fact its painful, but it is not bad. The bible says in John 16:21 “Whenever a woman is in labor she has pain, because her hour has come; but when she gives birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy that a child has been born into the world.”
“Let’s be cheerful! We have no more right to steal the brightness out of the day for our own family than we have to steal the purse of a stranger. Let us be as careful that our homes are furnished with pleasant and happy thoughts as we are that the rugs are the right color and texture and the furniture comfortable and beautiful.”
~ Laura Ingalls Wilder
Our attitude in our homes is one of the most important ways we can set the tone. We must be heavenly minded by being grateful and joyful for all God has blessed us with… even the accidents and messes that happen.
Accidents and messes happen every single day. In those moments we have to make a quick decision how we are going to respond and ultimately this response will set the tone of the home. If the response is always judgmental, harsh, the home will reflect that. If the response is one of patience, forgiveness, and joy the home will be a reflection of that light.
Tip: Look to the fruit of the spirit if you are struggling with how to respond. Is your response rooted in these:
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” ~Galatians 5:22-23
BUT it is not only in the times of accidents and messes that we have to watch our attitudes… it is also in HOW we approach our daily work. Are we coming with willing hands or are we dragging our feet complaining. Our families are watching us and we need to remember that it is a joy, not a burden, to serve them so our attitudes towards our daily work must reflect this! The Proverbs 31 woman is praised for this exact attitude
“She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands.” ~ Proverbs 31:13
I messed up… Now what?
So the day became chaos and you reacted with more chaos… does this mean the day is completely lost? NO!
There have been too many accounts then I’d like to admit that I’ve been guilty of allowing circumstances and my feelings dictate how I react in our home. But praise God He is a forgiving and redemptive God because even in those chaos moments our days are not lost! All we need to do is…
- Humble ourselves and admit wrongdoing
- Apologize and ask forgiveness from God + our families
- Commit to being heavenly minded for the rest of the day
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